Can you look into the mirror with love and kindness?

When you look in the mirror what do you see? What are the things that fill your mind? Is it positive uplifting thoughts or are they negative thoughts that send you straight for a little chocolate pick me up?

This weekend I reevaluated these questions. Since I’ve been going through these health challenges the last few months it’s been really hard to exercise. I have up days (which are still not anywhere close to what my normal used to be) were I am trying to take care of the house that I’ve neglected. And then are the bad days where I don’t really feel like doing anything and feel like I am ready for a nap a couple hours after I wake up.

With all of this going on I have been frustrated. My once active life sometimes feels like a distant memory. And with the inactivity I have noticed changes to my reflection that I am having to get used to.

But the main thing I noticed was my inner thoughts one day. I was noticing the changes and I had this negative dialog running through my mind as I pointed out to myself how this or that looked different or this outfit fit differently. I won’t run through the list I had, but I felt myself getting a little bit depressed.

When I caught myself I thought, “This is not me, I don’t pick myself apart!” And yet I was. I was doing what millions of people do. I had this vision of how I was supposed to look and I was unhappy that I didn’t look that way. Yes this vision was my previous self of a few months ago, but the result was the same. I was tearing myself down.

I still want to get back into better shape, I still want to live my life fully, and there is nothing wrong with having those wants and goals. But what was damaging was that I had not accepted that my life was changing. I am not the same as I was 6 months ago. I need to adjust to what my life is now with the changes in my health. I need to love myself more and be accepting of where I am and plan for where I want to go. Some things are out of my control, but my outlook is something I can control. I can be positive and uplifting. That is who I choose to be. With this decision in place I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I am no longer feeling like I am letting myself down because I am not living up to my old self.


  • elisabetta

    Reply Reply January 12, 2014

    This is perfectly correct but sometimes it isn`t very easy ,I try my best but i would like some other advice’Thank you very much

    • Morgan Turley

      Reply Reply January 13, 2014

      Elisabetta, you are absolutely correct. It is very easy to say and a lot harder to actually do! One of the techniques that I have utilized over the past few years is Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT. I use this technique when I am feeling a negative emotion to help clear it out and focus once more on the positive and uplifting things about myself and about my world around me. This technique doesn’t make everything magically disappear, but it is a tool that can help you work on making things better. With everything it can take time and hard work, but I have seen a change with using this technique. Here is an article about the scientific studies behind EFT as well as an overview on how to use it. There are also a couple of books that I have found to have helped me a lot in working on this as well. Follow your passion, Find your Power by Bob Doyle and The Best Year of your Life: Dream It, Plan It, Live It by Debbie Ford. These books helped me to change my mindset and EFT has helped me to do it. There is a lot more that I am working on to teach in how to use EFT, but the above articles are what I have available so far. Let me know if you have any questions! ~ Morgan

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